On Saturday, November 19th, 2011, I was in New Haven for the annual Harvard-Yale football game. Since I had helped organize the black Harvard-Yale tailgate that year, I was pretty stressed and anxious the whole weekend, and was glad to be able to relax that evening with all my responsibilities completed. At some point as Jonathan and I wandered the streets of New Haven on our way to a party that night, he stopped and asked me to be his girlfriend!
Being blessed with the memory of a goldfish, I have NO recollection of exactly what he said, but since we had been “talking” for two months, I just knew it felt right to make it official. We’ve actually only celebrated our anniversary together once, because we were in different countries or states for each and every single other time – including this past weekend which marked five years!
If you had asked me 5 years ago if Jonathan and I would be getting married, I would have yelled a resounding NO! Not that I didn’t like him a lot, but it just seemed rather unlikely. I didn’t have any plans to date my senior year of college after spending the first three in a relationship, I knew we would likely end up in different places after graduation, and the man wore highwaters and African dad sandals (sorry to shade you boo, but it’s true!). But I allowed myself to fall in love because Jonathan was sweet, super smart, supported my crazy dreams, and made me laugh. He loved God fervently, gently questioned me when I did things I knew were wrong, and never in five years has raised his voice at me (despite me being dramatic and extra confrontational 😀 ). We’ve stuck together through family deaths, months of not seeing each other, and tons of other life highs and lows, but there is no one else I would rather do life with.
So five years after we started officially dating, Jonathan and I sent out the save the dates for our wedding. In 135 days, we’ll be husband and wife and I CANNOT FREAKIN’ WAIT!!!!!
We got our save the dates from Minted, which also sponsored the decor for our introduction ceremony in June. Since our wedding colors are black, white, and gold, I knew I wanted a gold foil save the date, and Minted has a nice array by independent designers. The best part about using Minted for save the dates, wedding invitations, or any holiday cards is that they offer FREE guest address printing!! There are also lots of fun customization options – we opted for a gold metallic envelope liner as well as a customized stamp. Minted is having a nice Black Friday sale – with the code BF2016 you can save 15% off all wedding orders, and 20% off holiday cards and gifts!
We were also able to setup our own custom wedding website through Minted, IjeomaandJonathan.com. Initially, I was initially set on making my own wedding website on WordPress, but the ease of tracking RSVPs and showing only select events to attendees (I don’t need my aunties to know about the after party lol) via Minted’s wedding website threw my DIY idea out of the window.
The rest of the wedding planning is well underway and I can’t wait to share with you some of the super fly black-owned businesses we’re patronizing as the date approaches. We figured if this thing costs so darn much, we might as well invest in our own communities. Jonathan and I haven’t taken any formal pictures recently, but this is an outtake from our last shoot that really captures us in our element ?.
If you want to… idk, donate to/sponsor our wedding, don’t hesitate to shoot me an email. Jk, but not really ?
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Images 3, 5 by Taylor Carment.