This photo has nothing to do with this post, but I really had to include my 2nd best friend in my head (Chimamanda is the first).
So I recently wrote an article on Bella Naija rounding up some Nigerian natural hair bloggers that people should follow. I was inspired to write the post because my first one, on why the #teamnatural movement is needed in Nigeria, got a whole slew of comments that in short – showed me that many Nigerians need some natural hair inspiration that they can relate to. It’s one thing when Taren can grow her hair in 2 years, but when you’ve had a TWA for 5 years AND you’ve been socialized to think that your hair is the beyond difficult (even Weezy thinks so), your lack of hair progress can swiftly be blamed on your hair type or nationality.
Anyway, I wrote this post and originally wanted to include only 10 bloggers but came across quite a few. What I thought would take me about 2 hours in actuality took me about 12 over the course of a few days. I had to sift through people’s YouTube pages and their blogs to extract information about the amount of time they’d been natural, their regimen, and the styles they typically do. Maybe readers don’t fully understand, but articles of any kind that are researched, take TIME to write. A whole lot of it. I never claim to know everything, which is why I often end my posts with a question that offers you the chance to add to the discussion. That’s the fun part about blogging, having a conversation with the readers!
Back to the specific article: I completed my article by asking if there were any Nigerian natural hair bloggers that I missed. Some people gave me good recommendations, but others had the gall to say things like:
“How could you miss so and so?”
Or for all my readers who sabi pidgin; “ah ah, which kind rubbish be this?”
I’m sorry. The next time you want some information included in an article about natural hair or any other topic, do me and other bloggers a favor and write it by your darn self. Either offer your suggestion without judgment of the blogger’s intentions, abilities, and awareness or have a seat. Or in pidgin: siddon.
In general, it’s not the best idea to disrespect anyone, especially if you won’t do so to their face. But for those of us who – outside of our normal lives – write extensively to help educate people on a specific topic (in my case, natural hair), it is especially trifling to shoot the messenger because they did not give you the message that you wanted to hear.
What do you think? Should readers be able to “go in” on bloggers? What’s the respectful way to comment when you disagree?
Oh, and to make the photo semi-relevant; unless you’re on Lupita’s level, do not come for me in the comments!